let's duke it out

Opposites attract they say. Sometimes I think that saying was made up in order to make people feel better when they figure out they're with someone that doesn't get them at all. "He doesn't understand me, but that's not his fault... it's just because we're different." That's bogus. He doesn't understand you for one of two reasons: you're not communicating effectively, or he doesn't care enough to try. Simple as that. And if you realize down the road that the person you're with doesn't make you happy, you can't just say "oh, we're just different." No, if you're not happy then something's not right in your relationship and you need to figure out what it is and decide where to go from there... not just blame it on the account of differences and burry it in the sand. It will work it's way to the surface again. I hate that society today thinks avoidance can substitute resolution. Just because you didn't have a fight about something doesn't mean it's not an issue. I'd rather have the fight, work out our differences, and come to a resolution than avoid the thing all together. Where is the growth in that? It's time for people to start being accountable for their own issues and feelings, instead of pretending like things are fine just to "make face." How is that healthy? There is a such a thing fighting in a constructive manner. If you avoid the problem, then you avoid resolution and growth. End of story.